Wow!! I’m amazed at the response I’ve gotten so far! I wanted to do the conclusion a day after the previous post but then I also wanted to give us time to send in our opinions and up until early this morning, someone still gave his answer and opinion as well. Though not in the comment box but on my social media platform. Okay!! I know you’ve seen the comments on the previous post, my girlfriend said she read the comments and smiled. Well, enough of that, let’s get down to the conclusion of the matter!!

 First of all there is no general or  stipulated “Right Time” to be in a relationship however there is what I call Your Right Time. Your Right Time is when you are ready!!! So here's how to know when you are ready for a relationship;

a. When you have fully understood yourself : A friend pointed out how you have to understand yourself first before trying to get someone to understand you. It’s a very difficult task to understand someone that doesn’t understand themselves. So understand yourself first, what are your interests, what turns you off and on, your values and so on… It’ll help your relationship grow faster when you do that.

b. You have to be whole : I shouldn’t live my whole life thinking someone will have to tolerate me. Like they usually say; “this is the way I am, you either take it or leave it” that’s exactly why you’ve experienced heartbreaks!! That’s why two “supposed” mature people in a relationship can’t have a decent and mature conversation. The lady is always having mood swings and refuses to work on it, the guy is always spending money anyhow and thinks it’s cool!! You are selfish and you want to be in a relationship? You have ego!! You can’t even apologize when you are wrong not to talk of when you are right. All I’m trying to say is improve yourself, work on your character, you can be better!! You can actually control those mood swings, you can spend wisely too! Read books and work on yourself! When you are done developing yourself then you are a little ready for a relationship. This covers Emotional, Mental and Financial Maturity.

This last point is supposed to be the first but I had to make it the last point so it can sink…

c. You have to be Born Again : I mean we can’t talk about relationship/marriage without LOVE. And we can’t talk about LOVE without GOD!! This is the pivot of the conclusion. You can’t talk about loving someone genuinely without knowing who Christ is! Of course the world’s kind of love is infatuation, lust and obsession. But that’s not love. Only Christ can make you love like Him!! Send me a DM on my social media platform below and I will help you understand what it means to be Born Again and how to be one.

Don’t forget to tell me how you feel about the conclusion in the comment box!

Thank you so much for your time. I love you and God bless you!!